Strategies for Early Recovery

  Early sobriety is hard as hell. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. It takes guts, commitment, and bravery to remove alcohol from your life and relearn how to live as a sober person.   It does get much easier the more time that goes on not drinking… But there’s no getting away from the […]

Why is it SO Difficult to Ask for HELP, Guys?

Help, I need somebody… “Won’t you please, please help me? This isn’t a plea you’re likely to hear from most men today. Particularly men in the throes of addiction.  Yet in 1965, a young mop top named John from Liverpool, melodically pleaded for help in the smash hit Help by the Beatles. A “real man” asks for help […]

Hooked on the Cure?

  It’s approaching midnight and I am still typing.   I know I should be going to bed.   And I should sleep.   I tell myself that.   But I don’t want to listen to that voice of reason in my head. I’ve found, in life, that the calling to unreasonableness is far stronger […]

Dysfunctional Drinking – Am I Being the Fun Police?

  I was scrolling through Instagram a couple of days ago when I saw a photo that a local celebrity had posted. It was of a takeaway cup filled with wine and the caption read: “Sneaking a light beverage into the school prize giving tonight.”   The photo was liked by over 2,000 people and […]

Friday Night Thinking (Not Alcohol Drinking)…

  Oh what a loaded night of the week this is. Friday nights come with all sorts of emotional baggage. Relief (for the week being done), anticipation (for the weekend ahead), and excitement (let’s cut loose!).   Cutting loose on Friday… Cutting loose sure used to be my Friday night thinking. There was only one […]

Boredom and Isolation in Recovery…

Yesterday afternoon at about 4pm I sat at the kitchen bench and stared off into space. I felt bored and restless. I would have rather been somewhere else. Working at an office in town maybe. Or out doing something – anything – stimulating and interesting.   But because I’m a stay-at-home mum who works part-time […]

When Your Significant Other Still Drinks…

  I bought a six-pack of beer for my husband from a local store a couple of days ago. It felt a bit strange carrying it across the road to my car – wondering if anyone might see me and wonder what the hell I was doing. I can just imagine the gossip, “Do you […]

Are Other People’s Drinking Habits My Business?

  I just took the dog for a walk around the neighbourhood and it’s glass recycling day so the pavements were all lined with green plastic bins. I was very nosy and examined them all, wondering about the householders who owned them. Bottle count on recycling day… There were a lot of these green bins […]

What are My Kids Thinking (About my Sobriety)?

  I have so many “how on earth could I be doing this if I was still boozing” moments nowadays, but none more so than when I’m driving my kids around in the evening to their activities. My Three Sons… This happens a lot given I’ve entered that phase of parenting when I seem to […]

What Things Do you Enjoy Instead of Drinking?

  Someone asked me this question the other day. It’s a good one given alcohol used to fill a lot of my days. Like, a lot.   Let’s think it through. I would start drinking at 5pm on the dot and usually fell into bed at around 10pm … so that makes at least 5 […]