Addiction – The Power of Prediction and Prevention

  It’s finally July and Grand Rapids has blossomed into the bright, bustling community I love. Families are spending evenings on the porch… watching kids draw with chalk… grilling all manner of meats and veg. These days, it can be easy to slip into a habit of mid-week drinking, what with holidays and get-togethers and […]

I Am Wickedly Rebellious (Sober)

  One of the things I love most about being sober is the notion that it’s a wickedly rebellious act. It is! Think about it.  An alcohol soaked world… We live in a world that is literally soaked in booze. Every social occasion, gathering, celebration, achievement, commiseration, high point, low point and Friday night is […]

Toxic Masculinity – The Hidden Trauma in Men’s Lives

  Human suffering is all around us.  We learn of untold trauma—sexual abuse, bullying, domestic violence, early and sudden deaths of loved ones, exposure to combat, life altering injuries, etc. It makes us wonder how individuals survive and move on to live life.  We are inspired by heroic stories of survival and healing.   The […]

Anthony Bourdain: Shining a Light on Suicide, Addiction and Depression

  The deaths by suicide of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade last week, brought mental health and suicide to the forefront. Perhaps that is the only positive that can be gleaned from the tragic and avoidable loss of such robust, talented people.   When Celebrity Shines a Light… In the celebrity magazine Us Weekly, there […]

Strategies for Early Recovery

  Early sobriety is hard as hell. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. It takes guts, commitment, and bravery to remove alcohol from your life and relearn how to live as a sober person.   It does get much easier the more time that goes on not drinking… But there’s no getting away from the […]

Why is it SO Difficult to Ask for HELP, Guys?

Help, I need somebody… “Won’t you please, please help me? This isn’t a plea you’re likely to hear from most men today. Particularly men in the throes of addiction.  Yet in 1965, a young mop top named John from Liverpool, melodically pleaded for help in the smash hit Help by the Beatles. A “real man” asks for help […]

Hooked on the Cure?

  It’s approaching midnight and I am still typing.   I know I should be going to bed.   And I should sleep.   I tell myself that.   But I don’t want to listen to that voice of reason in my head. I’ve found, in life, that the calling to unreasonableness is far stronger […]

Dysfunctional Drinking – Am I Being the Fun Police?

  I was scrolling through Instagram a couple of days ago when I saw a photo that a local celebrity had posted. It was of a takeaway cup filled with wine and the caption read: “Sneaking a light beverage into the school prize giving tonight.”   The photo was liked by over 2,000 people and […]

Friday Night Thinking (Not Alcohol Drinking)…

  Oh what a loaded night of the week this is. Friday nights come with all sorts of emotional baggage. Relief (for the week being done), anticipation (for the weekend ahead), and excitement (let’s cut loose!).   Cutting loose on Friday… Cutting loose sure used to be my Friday night thinking. There was only one […]

Boredom and Isolation in Recovery…

Yesterday afternoon at about 4pm I sat at the kitchen bench and stared off into space. I felt bored and restless. I would have rather been somewhere else. Working at an office in town maybe. Or out doing something – anything – stimulating and interesting.   But because I’m a stay-at-home mum who works part-time […]