When Your Significant Other Still Drinks…

  I bought a six-pack of beer for my husband from a local store a couple of days ago. It felt a bit strange carrying it across the road to my car – wondering if anyone might see me and wonder what the hell I was doing. I can just imagine the gossip, “Do you […]

Are Other People’s Drinking Habits My Business?

  I just took the dog for a walk around the neighbourhood and it’s glass recycling day so the pavements were all lined with green plastic bins. I was very nosy and examined them all, wondering about the householders who owned them. Bottle count on recycling day… There were a lot of these green bins […]

What are My Kids Thinking (About my Sobriety)?

  I have so many “how on earth could I be doing this if I was still boozing” moments nowadays, but none more so than when I’m driving my kids around in the evening to their activities. My Three Sons… This happens a lot given I’ve entered that phase of parenting when I seem to […]

What Things Do you Enjoy Instead of Drinking?

  Someone asked me this question the other day. It’s a good one given alcohol used to fill a lot of my days. Like, a lot.   Let’s think it through. I would start drinking at 5pm on the dot and usually fell into bed at around 10pm … so that makes at least 5 […]

How to Be a (Sober) Legend in Your Own Lifetime…

  You know the saying ‘The only constant is change’? I know it’s a terrible cliche, but boy is it true.   I’ve been noticing this recently with regards to my emotional and physical health. I get in a good rhythm with things and I’m firing on all cylinders being happy and healthy and I […]

Who am I Now That I Don’t Drink?

  One of the very hardest things for me in getting sober was the massive shift I had to do in reshaping my identity. Aside from beating cravings and just getting through the days without drinking, I had to somehow reconcile myself to being a sober person, and in the process say goodbye to the […]

The Persistent Myth of Moderation…

Moderation (noun): the avoidance of excess or extremes. The quality of being moderate. Restraint. Temperance.   I grew up in a predominantly White, predominantly Christian suburb outside of Ann Arbor. Moderation is a familiar notion… moderation for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Moderation in all things. I was brought up to believe that moderating our behavior, […]

What is the Definition of (Sober) Happiness?

Happiness Is: Acknowledging that I cannot control alcohol…   Happiness is believing, despite my pain, that I have the strength inside of me to turn things around.   Happiness is staring down cravings, resisting the pull to drink often enough that the cravings eventually start to fade and die.   Happiness is no 3am wake […]

The Moment of Action – A Guide to Creating Meaningful Change

  How do I know when I’m ready for change? How do I enact change in my life? When we anticipate profound change, we believe the moment will come to us in an equally profound way.We want the moment. We expect it. I’ll change when the moment presents itself to me… someday… when it’s right. […]

When the Booze Soaked World is In Your Face…

  Sometimes it’s just in my face a whole lot more. You know… the fact that I live in a booze soaked world. Some days it’s just more evident than at other times.   Most days I get to potter about my community, interact with my friends, spend time online, look after my kids, and […]