Why Did You Choose Alcohol and/or Drugs Over Me?

  It’s seven o’clock and the school play is starting. Or it’s your birthday dinner with all the relatives. You could be sitting awkwardly with your boss at an introductory lunch, or waiting at the agreed upon spot for a morning walk. Whatever the commitment, you are looking at your watch with your heart in […]

When Your Significant Other Still Drinks…

  I bought a six-pack of beer for my husband from a local store a couple of days ago. It felt a bit strange carrying it across the road to my car – wondering if anyone might see me and wonder what the hell I was doing. I can just imagine the gossip, “Do you […]

Are Other People’s Drinking Habits My Business?

  I just took the dog for a walk around the neighbourhood and it’s glass recycling day so the pavements were all lined with green plastic bins. I was very nosy and examined them all, wondering about the householders who owned them. Bottle count on recycling day… There were a lot of these green bins […]

How to Be a (Sober) Legend in Your Own Lifetime…

  You know the saying ‘The only constant is change’? I know it’s a terrible cliche, but boy is it true.   I’ve been noticing this recently with regards to my emotional and physical health. I get in a good rhythm with things and I’m firing on all cylinders being happy and healthy and I […]

When Brad Pitt Says Alcohol Ruined His Marriage, it Hits Home…

      n a spate of recent articles, actor Brad Pitt has blamed his alcohol use for the demise of his marriage to Angelina Jolie. It seems there was an incident on a private plane, when Brad was inappropriately rough with one of his children. I can relate to what I imagine took place. A drink […]

Who am I Now That I Don’t Drink?

  One of the very hardest things for me in getting sober was the massive shift I had to do in reshaping my identity. Aside from beating cravings and just getting through the days without drinking, I had to somehow reconcile myself to being a sober person, and in the process say goodbye to the […]

The Brain and Body Healing Effects of a Sober Tropical Vacation

  I got back recently from a five day, sober vacation in Puerto Rico. To put the result into the proper perspective, I missed my connecting flight on the way home and I couldn’t muster enough rancor to be snippy to the customer service representative who rerouted me.   What, Me Worry? My originating flight was an hour […]

When the Booze Soaked World is In Your Face…

  Sometimes it’s just in my face a whole lot more. You know… the fact that I live in a booze soaked world. Some days it’s just more evident than at other times.   Most days I get to potter about my community, interact with my friends, spend time online, look after my kids, and […]

Valentine’s Day Self Love!

  I read this social media post that suggested you should find a person who loves you for exactly all the reasons you love yourself. My initial reaction was, “Wow that is incredibly unrealistic,” then I realized, “Well, no, in fact I’ve already done that. That person is me!”   Realistic Expectations… In recovery we […]

10 Reasons a Michigan Winter is NOT Miserable and SO Good for Your Health!

  I just read an article in Thrillist  ranking all 50 states by how miserable they are in the winter and I am annoyed. Not only did the writers rank Michigan as number 2 on the misery scale, but they said I was going to put on weight. These guys, who’s claim to credibility is […]