Women & Addiction – “Pink” Flags for the Moms Who Need Wine…

  I met with a thirty-something therapist last week who said she was concerned about her peers and their drinking habits. The “Moms who Need Wine” crowd: Starbucks cups filled with iced KJ at the soccer games. Play dates replete with chardonnay and imported cheese… Even baby-carriage walking groups with iced wine in the cup […]

Art & Hope – Reawakening the Newly Sober Senses

  Gerhard Richter once said, “Art is the highest form of hope.” And hope is the message for the men of Sanford House at John Street. As part of a yearlong renovation to this historic site, now serving as a treatment center, art was key to making a house a home. With more than 60 original works on […]

Why Did You Choose Alcohol and/or Drugs Over Me?

  It’s seven o’clock and the school play is starting. Or it’s your birthday dinner with all the relatives. You could be sitting awkwardly with your boss at an introductory lunch, or waiting at the agreed upon spot for a morning walk. Whatever the commitment, you are looking at your watch with your heart in […]

When Your Significant Other Still Drinks…

  I bought a six-pack of beer for my husband from a local store a couple of days ago. It felt a bit strange carrying it across the road to my car – wondering if anyone might see me and wonder what the hell I was doing. I can just imagine the gossip, “Do you […]

Are Other People’s Drinking Habits My Business?

  I just took the dog for a walk around the neighbourhood and it’s glass recycling day so the pavements were all lined with green plastic bins. I was very nosy and examined them all, wondering about the householders who owned them. Bottle count on recycling day… There were a lot of these green bins […]

How to Be a (Sober) Legend in Your Own Lifetime…

  You know the saying ‘The only constant is change’? I know it’s a terrible cliche, but boy is it true.   I’ve been noticing this recently with regards to my emotional and physical health. I get in a good rhythm with things and I’m firing on all cylinders being happy and healthy and I […]

When Brad Pitt Says Alcohol Ruined His Marriage, it Hits Home…

      n a spate of recent articles, actor Brad Pitt has blamed his alcohol use for the demise of his marriage to Angelina Jolie. It seems there was an incident on a private plane, when Brad was inappropriately rough with one of his children. I can relate to what I imagine took place. A drink […]

Who am I Now That I Don’t Drink?

  One of the very hardest things for me in getting sober was the massive shift I had to do in reshaping my identity. Aside from beating cravings and just getting through the days without drinking, I had to somehow reconcile myself to being a sober person, and in the process say goodbye to the […]

The Brain and Body Healing Effects of a Sober Tropical Vacation

  I got back recently from a five day, sober vacation in Puerto Rico. To put the result into the proper perspective, I missed my connecting flight on the way home and I couldn’t muster enough rancor to be snippy to the customer service representative who rerouted me.   What, Me Worry? My originating flight was an hour […]

When the Booze Soaked World is In Your Face…

  Sometimes it’s just in my face a whole lot more. You know… the fact that I live in a booze soaked world. Some days it’s just more evident than at other times.   Most days I get to potter about my community, interact with my friends, spend time online, look after my kids, and […]