Families and SUDs – Are You Care Taking or Care Giving?

You are a family member of someone with a substance use disorder (SUD). And that special person has finally entered treatment for their SUD. You have been following all the recommended steps for family members of folks with SUDs. You’re even feeling pretty good about things now. When suddenly, it hits you. Do I really […]

Powerful Allies in the Recovering Family

  In their book, STAYING SOBER, Gorski & Miller, state, “Family members can be powerful allies in preventing relapse …”  To that end, Sanford Addiction Treatment Centers offers psycho-education groups for family and friends of our clients with substance use disorders (SUDs). These groups help loved ones become powerful allies and open the door to […]

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The Legacy of Inter-Generational Addiction and Recovery

I was re-reading my last article on controlling behaviors, and thoughts about the inter-generational aspects of addiction kept coming to mind. Because so many people raised in families where there is addiction present, grow into adulthood and connect with people who have substance use disorders (SUDs).   Inter-Generational Addiction and Recovery According to the National […]

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Control Your Controlling Behavior! Family Recovery …

  When most of us think of controlling behaviors or people who are controlling, we think of people who bully others. Folks who yell commands, behave in an overbearing manner or are just plain rude. We think of the obvious behaviors that catch our attention. In this article we focus on controlling behaviors that are […]

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Family Member Recovery – Reactions and Responses

In my article, When Loved Ones Enable Addictive Disease,I discussed the idea of family member recovery and battling a person vs. the disease of addiction. I said, “When we battle an addictive disease process, we engage in purposeful and strategic behaviors to disrupt the process of the addictive disease progression.”   Referring to family member […]

When Loved Ones Enable Addictive Disease

In the world of addiction, to “enable” means to assist the progression of the disease by interfering with the natural consequences of addictive behaviors. As you are reading this, you’re probably thinking, “Why would anyone enable addictive disease? Make the situation worse?”  Unfortunately, and often very unintentionally, family members dealing with addictive behaviors, do just […]

Thoughtful Connections from the Family Program – The Forest & the Trees

  Suppose you have 100 acres full of sick trees who want to get well.  If each tree leaves the forest to find wellness and then returns to the forest, they get sick again from the infection of the rest of the trees.  The Elders taught us that to treat sick trees you must treat […]