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Deception as a Defense in Addiction – Third Stage of Change

  This article is the 3rd in our series of 4 articles on the primary defenses of addiction. In this article we will focus on deception as a defense in addiction. Families and loved ones are the brunt of deception by those developing a substance use disorder (SUD). This defense is not only acted out […]

Justification of Addiction – The Second Stage of Change

  This is the second article in our series on the defenses of addictive disease. There has been an unintended distance between our first article and this one, so please go back and review the article Denial of Addiction – the First Step of Acceptance to refresh your thoughts. This will put your head in […]

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Denial of Addiction – the First Stage of Acceptance

In our last article, we reviewed what it feels like to be a person developing a substance use disorder (SUD). We are now beginning a series discussing the dynamics and defenses used by people as they develop an SUD. The primary defenses used as addictive disease progresses are denial, justification, deception, and manipulation.   Denial, […]

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Do You Know How Active Addiction Feels?

As an adult, in a family with a member who has an active addiction, it is likely you are having feelings and thoughts reported by many other family members who deal with addiction in their midst. You feel hurt, anger, frustration, self-doubt, confusion, anxiety, fear, sadness, and hopelessness. You might also believe you have tried […]

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Sheltering at Home with a Substance Misusing Loved One?

  So, all these weeks of staying at home have answered those nagging questions in the back of your mind about a loved one’s behavior changes. Your spouse, significant other, child, friend has been misusing a substance of some sort and likely has a substance use disorder (SUD).   Substance Misusing Loved One … Everyone […]

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Wise Recovery Slogans, Sayings & Catchphrases

Lately what I’ve written has been intense (e.g., boundaries, generational addiction, relapse). And I’m ready to try something a little lighter, yet equally as informative. A part of the recovery dialogue that has been revealed to me over the years, is the use of slogans in recovery  At first, I thought they were silly. I […]

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Relapse! Does Addiction Treatment Work?

Family members in the Sanford Family Program often ask, “Why is there so much relapse with addiction?”  Right along with the first question, I hear, “My loved one went to treatment and we all participated in the programs. Why did this relapse happen? Doesn’t treatment work?”   Relapse! Does Addiction Treatment Work? The truth of […]

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New Year’s Resolutions – Commitment to the Process of Change

Welcome to 2020! Right now in your social circles the “buzz” is probably about New Year’s Resolutions. Did you make any? In this article I’d like to share some perspectives on how we humans make behavioral changes, like resolutions or changes in our relationships with significant others, and in our lives in general.   Resolutions […]

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Letting Go in Family Recovery (Happy Holidays!)

Once again it’s the holiday season with a tradition of gift giving to folks you care about!  At Sanford Addiction Treatment Centers, we care about our Excursions readers and we have one of those practical little gifts for you.   Gathering with people you love … We understand families managing SUDs during the holiday season […]

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Family Support Group at Sanford – Making a Connection

Here are the facts about the Sanford Family Support Group: The group is for family members and friends (F&F) of clients or former clients of Sanford. It does not matter what level of care the family member has been treated in.   Any F&F who has been through our 4-session Family Program or a previous […]

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