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Watery Me – Crying in Recovery

  At the start of the pandemic I cried for two weeks. Not all day, every day, but very regularly. The enormity of the crisis, the fear about the virus, the concerns about lock down – it was a lot to deal with and get my head around. Every time an email came through from […]

Thinking vs Acting – the First Steps to Recovery

Making changes to your alcohol habits is a massive undertaking. It can take months – years even – to get to the point where you actually stop drinking. And that’s okay, because transformation is a long process and it starts from deep within. Often things can be moving well along in the direction of change […]

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Do You Really WANT to Change (and Be Sober)?

You have to want to change in order to change.   I could type a million words about why I love being sober, but if you don’t want to stop drinking it will make no difference.   The tools and techniques of change… I could talk until I run out of puff about all the […]

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I’m an Expert on Cravings…

The wall of words… I feel like I’ve become a bit of an expert on cravings. It’s been hard not to, given I am an addict through-and-through and my brain likes to crave things…   How the Brain Craves… After I quit booze I became very aware of how my brain craved. I spent many, […]

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I Am Wickedly Rebellious (Sober)

  One of the things I love most about being sober is the notion that it’s a wickedly rebellious act. It is! Think about it.  An alcohol soaked world… We live in a world that is literally soaked in booze. Every social occasion, gathering, celebration, achievement, commiseration, high point, low point and Friday night is […]

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The Gift of Desperation in Addiction Recovery

  You feel utterly weird when you first quit drinking. I certainly did. I felt like a sober alien who had been beamed down onto a boozy planet. Like a foreigner in my own life, completely out of context and uncomfortable to say the least.   It’s a rough transition… I’d go to social gatherings […]

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Early Recovery – Strategies to Push Fast Forward

  Early recovery … … is hard as hell. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. It takes guts, commitment, and bravery to remove alcohol from your life and relearn how to live as a sober person.   It does get much easier the more time that goes on not drinking… But there’s no getting away […]

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Dysfunctional Drinking – Am I Being the Fun Police?

  I was scrolling through Instagram a couple of days ago when I saw a photo that a local celebrity had posted. It was of a takeaway cup filled with wine and the caption read: “Sneaking a light beverage into the school prize giving tonight.”   The photo was liked by over 2,000 people and […]

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Friday Night Thinking (Not Alcohol Drinking)…

  Oh what a loaded night of the week this is. Friday nights come with all sorts of emotional baggage. Relief (for the week being done), anticipation (for the weekend ahead), and excitement (let’s cut loose!).   Cutting loose on Friday… Cutting loose sure used to be my Friday night thinking. There was only one […]

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Boredom and Isolation in Recovery…

Yesterday afternoon at about 4pm I sat at the kitchen bench and stared off into space. I felt bored and restless. I would have rather been somewhere else. Working at an office in town maybe. Or out doing something – anything – stimulating and interesting.   But because I’m a stay-at-home mum who works part-time […]

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