Social Drinking, Social Anxiety and the Open Bar…

What is it about an open bar at a lively party? Friendly wait staff in bow ties and damask draped folding tables.The inevitable lineup of soon to be new best friends. And for anyone like me, with social anxiety, the open bar is the ultimate event ice-breaker.   New Friends, Open Bar….No Anxiety Here.… In […]

Fear Not Sober Vacations – Great Escapes for Sober Sojourners!

A newly sober friend of mine was looking meaningfully into his coffee. “What’s wrong?” I asked. “I’m going on vacation to St Martin next week and I’m really nervous about my recovery,” he said. My immediate thought was a sarcastic, Poor you – that’s the kind of problem I’d like to have. But he looked […]

Neuro-Reflexive Physical Therapy – Dry Needling for Addiction Aftercare

  I am lying on a wide padded table breathing in through a “hole in my head”. I am breathing out through my hands and feet. There are needles in my face, hands, ankles, hips, and the top of my head. And behind my eyes I see cobalt blue squares. When I tell the gentleman […]

Clever Addicted Brain – Sabotaged when Contemplating Change

My favorite scene in the movie Jurassic Park doesn’t end well. The Australian park ranger is hunting raptors and one of the creatures rattles the fronds in front of him. While he prepares for the kill shot, another raptor sneaks up from behind. The ranger is eaten alive, but not before uttering the unforgettable line […]

Spend the Holidays in Rehab? I’ll Think About That Tomorrow…

Remember when Scarlett O’Hara said, “I’ll think about that tomorrow”? She was putting aside a difficult decision for a more “convenient” time. That’s the problem with procrastinating about something painful – like addressing a substance use disorder (SUD). There is never a good time, but there’s always a “good” excuse.   No excuses to put […]

What is This Thing Called Addiction RECOVERY?

  This is not a trick question. Nor does it have a “right” answer. However, there is a wise old saying by Yogi Berra that sums it up, “If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.” And with addiction recovery, it is up to each one of us to define […]

Gratitude, Thankfulness and Recovery in the Real World…

  I went away to a retreat last weekend. I was feeling a bit “rusty” in my recovery and decided I could use a tune-up. One of the things that hit me like a gong at a Buddhist temple while I was there, was the fact I had stopped doing a daily check on the […]

Kicking Up the Best of a Michigan Autumn (I’m not SAD)!

  My daughter and her fiance’ were visiting from Florida last weekend. Sometimes it’s nice to see the world through someone else’s eyes. For a couple of hot-house flowers, the weather was cold (blustery and in the 40s), but the autumn color was at its finest and my guests were game to explore the splendors […]

Good Mood Food – What’s Cooking in Recovery?

I’ll be the first to admit that I am still working on establishing a “healthy relationship” with food. So, whenever I sit down with Sanford House Chef Leslie, I feel a bit guilty. I know that my last night’s dinner consisted of a package of hastily browned ground turkey and a peck of green apples […]

Warning – Bariatric Surgery Can Lead to Alcohol Addiction

  There are times on the road to wellness, when the only thing one can say is, “No fair.” I remember thinking no fair when six months sober, a long dormant eating disorder popped up like the head of a Hydra. Just when I had my alcohol use disorder (AUD) licked, another trial presented itself. […]