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Dear Rae: Will Holiday Temptations Derail My Recovery?

Dear Rae: I am 92 days drug and alcohol free. How do I manage my recovery during the upcoming holiday season? There are so many temptations!  Emily Dear Emily: First, congratulations on 92 days. I am glad you’ve written to me and that you have a healthy respect for the challenges the holidays bring for […]

Dear Rae: What’s a Dual Diagnosis? Is That What I Have?

Dear Rae: I am researching rehabs for my depression, and I also have a drinking problem. I keep reading about dual diagnosis and co-occurring disorders. Is that what I have?  N.K.   Dear N.K. “Dual diagnosis” and “co-occurring disorders” are both terms that refer to someone who experiences a mental illness and a substance use […]

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I Went to Detox – Do I Still Need Addiction Treatment Dear Rae?

Dear Rae: I just got out of Detox and I feel pretty solid. Do I still need to go to an addiction treatment program? L.J. Dear L.J: In a word, yes. You need some type of addiction treatment program or intensive therapy after a stay in a detox unit. The purpose of detox is to […]

Dear Rae: I Relapsed – How Do I Move Forward?

Dear Rae: I am (or was) a recovering alcoholic. I have been sober for three years. Yesterday, it was raining and gray and my husband was out of town on business. For some reason I went to the liquor store and bought a bottle of vodka. I didn’t really even think about it – it […]

Dear Rae: Why Can My Boyfriend Drink More Than Me?

Dear Rae: I am a currently a Junior and I have been drinking heavily for my entire time at college. Mostly beer, but we also do shots. Lately, after a night of partying, my hangovers seem to be getting worse. If I’m honest, I don’t feel that great most of the time… but it doesn’t […]

Dear Rae: What Level of Care is Best for My Wife?

Dear Rae: I feel completely helpless. My wife has been drinking heavily for years, but she has a good job and is very active. She runs three times a week and we have a pretty big social life. Here’s the problem – lately, she seems to be drinking more and it is impacting her quality […]

Dear Rae: Is My 15-Year Old Using Alcohol & Drugs?

Dear Rae: My teenage son has begun to worry my husband and me. He is sullen and non-communicative – which is very new behavior in our house. We are a close family and he is our only child. In the past, John was open about school, friends and outside activities. But recently, he has been […]

Working Hard at Recovery? Take Time Out to BELLY DANCE…

  As a co-founder of Sanford House, and as an addiction counselor, I can attest that the women in our charge work hard for their recovery. Our clients at Sanford House participate in all manner of evidence based group therapy. They have rigorous individual sessions with their counselors. On any given day, they may plumb the inner-workings of their family […]

Drinking Problem? How Do I Know if I Have One?

We get calls at Sanford House all the time from people who are on the fence about whether they have a drinking problem or not. This is called “pre-contemplation,” because oftentimes the caller is obviously in trouble, but they don’t see it. Or don’t want to see it. We appreciate these calls, because it provides […]

What is Drug and Alcohol Detox?

  My family has a story we tell about the time my grandfather went to alcohol detox at Deaconess Hospital in Detroit. It was back in the 1970’s when the approach was “white knuckle”. He was tied to the bed with straps. While his sons held vigil, he stayed awake for an entire week, riding […]