The Serenity Prayer – A Gendered Interpretation & Challenge

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change – the humility to sit down and shut up; The courage to change the things I can – the strength it takes to stand up and speak up; And the wisdom to know the difference – the fluidity and discernment to respond to […]

21st Century Parenting – Children & Parents Should be Seen AND Heard

  Parents today are challenged.  It used to be that children were seen, but not heard.  Now it seems that they are seen, heard, and sometimes in control.  Sure, there are still “old school” parents wielding and abusing their power over children while eroding their self-agency into a debilitating “mommy dearest” deference.  But there are […]

Experiential Reclamation Therapy – Transformative Therapy for Men Beyond CBT

  The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men […]

Toxic Masculinity – The Hidden Trauma in Men’s Lives

  Human suffering is all around us.  We learn of untold trauma—sexual abuse, bullying, domestic violence, early and sudden deaths of loved ones, exposure to combat, life altering injuries, etc. It makes us wonder how individuals survive and move on to live life.  We are inspired by heroic stories of survival and healing.   The […]

Why is it SO Difficult to Ask for HELP, Guys?

Help, I need somebody… “Won’t you please, please help me? This isn’t a plea you’re likely to hear from most men today. Particularly men in the throes of addiction.  Yet in 1965, a young mop top named John from Liverpool, melodically pleaded for help in the smash hit Help by the Beatles. A “real man” asks for help […]