The Human Development Project

Human development … There’s a stigma attached to seeking or receiving mental health services. Unlike receiving treatment for breast cancer or heart disease or a myriad of other body illnesses, seeking or receiving mental health services is mostly perceived as a mark of disgrace. In fact, society will often stigmatize less and accept the manifestation […]

Accepting Responsibility for the Things We Invite In (and Regret Later)

What do we invite into our lives only to complain about later?  After a long car ride followed by a short ferry ride, I arrived for a retreat on Bois Blanc Island with other brave adults to explore this question with two seasoned psychotherapists.   Taking Responsibility – Therapist Heal Thyself…  It’s far easier to […]

The Serenity Prayer – A Gendered Interpretation & Challenge

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change – the humility to sit down and shut up; The courage to change the things I can – the strength it takes to stand up and speak up; And the wisdom to know the difference – the fluidity and discernment to respond to […]

21st Century Parenting – Children & Parents Should be Seen AND Heard

  Parents today are challenged.  It used to be that children were seen, but not heard.  Now it seems that they are seen, heard, and sometimes in control.  Sure, there are still “old school” parents wielding and abusing their power over children while eroding their self-agency into a debilitating “mommy dearest” deference.  But there are […]

Experiential Reclamation Therapy – Transformative Therapy for Men Beyond CBT

  The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men […]

Toxic Masculinity – The Hidden Trauma in Men’s Lives

  Human suffering is all around us.  We learn of untold, hidden trauma—sexual abuse, bullying, domestic violence, early and sudden deaths of loved ones, exposure to combat, life altering injuries, etc. It makes us wonder how men and women survive and move on to live life after traumatic experiences.  We are inspired by heroic stories […]

Why is it SO Difficult to Ask for HELP, Guys?

Help, I need somebody… “Won’t you please, please help me? This isn’t a plea you’re likely to hear from most men today. Particularly men in the throes of addiction.  Yet in 1965, a young mop top named John from Liverpool, melodically pleaded for help in the smash hit Help by the Beatles. A “real man” asks for help […]