Fear Not Sober Vacations – Great Escapes for Sober Sojourners!

A newly sober friend of mine was looking meaningfully into his coffee. “What’s wrong?” I asked. “I’m going on vacation to St Martin next week and I’m really nervous about my recovery,” he said. My immediate thought was a sarcastic, Poor you – that’s the kind of problem I’d like to have. But he looked […]

Putting the Children First – Do Kids Provide an Incentive to Get Sober?

My children are the most important thing in my life and the best thing I have ever accomplished. They drive me nuts. They push the limits as they get older and form new relationships, but they are the two humans in life I can say, “I love”. Loving my children is the only consistent true […]

Coping with Life’s Ordinary Moments in Recovery…

Are things honestly ever “just fine” in early recovery?   At Sanford House , we begin group therapy sessions with a check-in. Clients are asked to identify how they’re feeling today. (Sure, sometimes therapy is just as on-the-nose as one may imagine.) I challenge my clients to reframe answers like “fine,” “good,” or “I don’t […]

Honoring the Unique – The Life Story Project at Sanford

I visited Seattle recently, and stayed in a hostel for the first time. When I got home, I struggled to describe my trip. “My perspective is a little different now,” I said.   Different names for the same place… honoring the unique, dynamic, peculiar, and predictable In truth, all of our experiences shift our worldview […]

Clever Addicted Brain – Sabotaged when Contemplating Change

My favorite scene in the movie Jurassic Park doesn’t end well. The Australian park ranger is hunting raptors and one of the creatures rattles the fronds in front of him. While he prepares for the kill shot, another raptor sneaks up from behind. The ranger is eaten alive, but not before uttering the unforgettable line […]

Thoughtful Connections from the Family Program – The Forest & the Trees

  Suppose you have 100 acres full of sick trees who want to get well.  If each tree leaves the forest to find wellness and then returns to the forest, they get sick again from the infection of the rest of the trees.  The Elders taught us that to treat sick trees you must treat […]

The Serenity Prayer – A Gendered Interpretation & Challenge

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change – the humility to sit down and shut up; The courage to change the things I can – the strength it takes to stand up and speak up; And the wisdom to know the difference – the fluidity and discernment to respond to […]

I Knew I Was an Alcoholic Long Before I Quit Drinking….

I knew I was an alcoholic long before I finally put the alcohol down.  I knew this because I became emotionally dependent and would use a drink to satisfy everything.  Coming home from work I would slam the bottle of wine on the counter and tell myself that I deserved a drink.  Whether I had […]

Looking Forward to 2019! With the Best Of Excursions 2018…

  We are grateful to all the contributing writers, who graced Excursions in 2018.  And in a fleeting, online world the following three articles stood the test of time. With titles, authors and topics that continue to be searched and read over and over.   The Best of Excursions  Our goal is to bring a […]

Sober New Year’s Parties and Resolutions? Not a Fan…

  I am not a fan of New Year’s Eve parties and nights out. I find all that hugging and Happy New Year chanting a bit much and incredibly uncomfortable. In my active drinking days, I would rarely remember midnight as I almost always blacked-out – either awake or asleep.   What I do love […]