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Discipline and Motivation – Practices in Early Recovery

A discipline is any activity that I can do by direct effort that will eventually enable me to do that which, currently, I cannot do by direct effort.  John Mark Comer   Would you pair the word “discipline” with the words “controlling” or “intense”? I certainly would and have. As a self-identified Type B individual, […]

Codependency: Children of Alcoholics Making it All Better…

Codependency is a subject I am interested in. And I love self-help books.  It’s embarrassing… but I’m, like, drawn to them. It may be the natural counselor in me. I’ve read: French Women Don’t Sleep Alone: Pleasurable Secrets to Finding Love; Succulent, Wild Women: Dancing with Your Wonder-Full Self; Radical Self-Love: A Guide to Loving […]

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Recovery Adventures Outdoors – 5 Favorites in Michigan

  In April of 2020, Michigan had a spring snowstorm. I had been physically distancing since February, and somehow the surprise storm seemed like the last straw (icicle, snowdrift, chilblain?). Of course, there was more to come with COVID-19, but at the time I felt trapped. No adventures, working from home, and far from family […]

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Justification of Addiction – The Second Stage of Change

  This is the second article in our series on the defenses of addictive disease. There has been an unintended distance between our first article and this one, so please go back and review the article Denial of Addiction – the First Step of Acceptance to refresh your thoughts. This will put your head in […]

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Sober Challenges – My COVID-19 Move & Job Change

The last 3 years of sobriety have thrown many challenges at me, but 2020 threw the biggest ones yet. At the start of this year I was unhappy in my job. It was causing me stress and reigniting some of my depressive behaviours. I talked to the bosses within my company, and managed to get […]

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Thinking vs Acting – the First Steps to Recovery

Making changes to your alcohol habits is a massive undertaking. It can take months – years even – to get to the point where you actually stop drinking. And that’s okay, because transformation is a long process and it starts from deep within. Often things can be moving well along in the direction of change […]

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Sobriety Makes You Prettier – It’s Better than Botox!

  For a time, my office was in an outbuilding next to Sanford House at Cherry Street for Women, a drug and alcohol treatment center in Grand Rapids, Michigan. I work for Sanford, and I’m am also in recovery, so I am acutely aware of the havoc alcohol can play on a person’s appearance. My […]

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Anxiety Disorder 2020 – What are the Signs?

During a family Zoom meeting last week, my son asked us a question his boss had posed in another Zoom meeting. The question was, “What new thing have you learned during the pandemic?” My son, who is clever as well as handsome, answered, “I built a table from scratch.” Another person said, “I learned to […]

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Looking Back at Summer Joy 2019 – The Best of Excursions

  What a difference a year makes. We went back to our articles from last year at this time, when summer was a little simpler to navigate. Interestingly, summer joy and our recovery advice stood the test of time. In 2020, we still seek happiness, connection to nature, and fostering feelings of awe. And in Michigan, […]

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Sober Curious: Does Moderation Management Work?

I promise I am not researching moderation management for myself. It’s been a while since the little guy in the red jumpsuit on my shoulder has whispered, “Who would it hurt if you had one glass of red wine with dinner?” In fact, he’s been too busy the past three months to bother me, convincing […]

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