My Loved One is Angry & DUI – Should I Call the Police?

  Living with Addiction: If you live with someone who drinks or drugs too much, the following scenario should be familiar. The argument begins (as it always does) about mid-way between sobriety and your loved one’s peak inebriation and ends in DUI. It may start because of a missed milestone or unbecoming behavior in public. […]

Continuum of Care: Early Recovery & Relapse Prevention

Continuum of care is a cohesive system of care that guides and tracks Sanford clients through all levels of treatment intensity. At Sanford, we recognize the importance of a long-term continuum of treatment programs, classes and resources. The therapeutic alliance between client and counselor is vital. And our clients respond best to treatment when they […]

Finding Recovery – Living in Recovery

There is a difference between finding recovery and living in recovery. When I found recovery, I was at such a rock bottom that I could see no way of continuing to live.   I was well aware that alcohol is a toxin. I knew it was ruining everything and destroying me and all my relationships. […]

Sober Dating? How on Earth Do I Master Relationships?

Life as a single sober person can be difficult.  And sober dating? Fellowship meetings are not social clubs, and I tend to focus on recovery and helping others while there. So it’s difficult to meet someone (although it does happen). I am also acutely aware that many of my fellows share stories of partners who […]

Recovery Kayaking – The Uncomplicated Joy

Sobriety, once you get the hang of it, makes life uncomplicated. Take kayaking for example. In my active addiction, a kayaking trip would have been an elaborate affair. I would leave the sunblock, water and bug spray behind, but stockpile wine in plastic water bottles. My balance was so bad, I would never have been […]

Acceptance? The Stages of my Recovery …

Living a life in recovery is challenging. In order to get sober, I had to give in to my addiction and in order to stay sober I have had to learn about addiction. And in learning about my addiction, I have learned a lot about myself and others. I have also learned it’s all about […]

What is Early Recovery? And When Do I Graduate?

I was hiking with a group of people who are new to recovery. And out of the blue, one of them asked, “What’s early recovery?”   Before I could answer, someone else said, “Yeah. What is early recovery and how do I get out of it?”   Still a third said, “I have a friend […]

Reflections on Time and Addiction Recovery

The passing of time is a strange concept in itself, but for me in sobriety, it was the one thing I didn’t consider.  As a child I was obsessed with the passing of time and age. I saw things passing too quickly and yet I was not able to live in the moment and enjoy […]

Fear Not Sober Vacations – Great Escapes for Sober Sojourners!

A newly sober friend of mine was looking meaningfully into his coffee. “What’s wrong?” I asked. “I’m going on a sober vacation to St Martin next week and I’m really nervous about my recovery,” he said. My immediate thought was a sarcastic, Poor you – that’s the kind of problem I’d like to have. But […]

Clever Addicted Brain – Sabotaged when Contemplating Change

My favorite scene in the movie Jurassic Park doesn’t end well. The Australian park ranger is hunting raptors and one of the creatures rattles the fronds in front of him. While he prepares for the kill shot, another raptor sneaks up from behind. The ranger is eaten alive, but not before uttering the unforgettable line […]