Gracefully Welcoming Change: Recovery in an Ever-Changing World

Change. Many of us struggle to navigate it gracefully. To create meaningful change, we have to do things differently. We must engage in some self-reflection. And practice self-awareness. And admit our shortcomings… It’s a lot of work.   I could draw a metaphor, here, about the changing seasons (it’s finally starting to feel like spring […]

Fear Not Sober Vacations – Great Escapes for Sober Sojourners!

A newly sober friend of mine was looking meaningfully into his coffee. “What’s wrong?” I asked. “I’m going on vacation to St Martin next week and I’m really nervous about my recovery,” he said. My immediate thought was a sarcastic, Poor you – that’s the kind of problem I’d like to have. But he looked […]

Dear Rae: Why Can My Boyfriend Drink More Than Me?

Dear Rae: I am a currently a Junior and I have been drinking heavily for my entire time at college. Mostly beer, but we also do shots. Lately, after a night of partying, my hangovers seem to be getting worse. If I’m honest, I don’t feel that great most of the time… but it doesn’t […]

Neuro-Reflexive Physical Therapy – Dry Needling for Addiction Aftercare

  I am lying on a wide padded table breathing in through a “hole in my head”. I am breathing out through my hands and feet. There are needles in my face, hands, ankles, hips, and the top of my head. And behind my eyes I see cobalt blue squares. When I tell the gentleman […]

Putting the Children First – Do Kids Provide an Incentive to Get Sober?

My children are the most important thing in my life and the best thing I have ever accomplished. They drive me nuts. They push the limits as they get older and form new relationships, but they are the two humans in life I can say, “I love”. Loving my children is the only consistent true […]

The Rise of Women & Alcoholism – WNEM TV5 Interviews Sanford House

  WNEM TV5 interviewed Sanford House Marketing Director Marilyn Spiller and Founder and President Rae Green  on the rise of alcoholism in women. In this comprehensive interview, Spiller shares her story – an alcohol dependence that spanned 25 years. And Rae Green, who is also an Addiction Therapist, explains why alcohol use disorders are claiming […]

Coping with Life’s Ordinary Moments in Recovery…

Are things honestly ever “just fine” in early recovery?   At Sanford House , we begin group therapy sessions with a check-in. Clients are asked to identify how they’re feeling today. (Sure, sometimes therapy is just as on-the-nose as one may imagine.) I challenge my clients to reframe answers like “fine,” “good,” or “I don’t […]

Honoring the Unique – The Life Story Project at Sanford

I visited Seattle recently, and stayed in a hostel for the first time. When I got home, I struggled to describe my trip. “My perspective is a little different now,” I said.   Different names for the same place… honoring the unique, dynamic, peculiar, and predictable In truth, all of our experiences shift our worldview […]

Clever Addicted Brain – Sabotaged when Contemplating Change

My favorite scene in the movie Jurassic Park doesn’t end well. The Australian park ranger is hunting raptors and one of the creatures rattles the fronds in front of him. While he prepares for the kill shot, another raptor sneaks up from behind. The ranger is eaten alive, but not before uttering the unforgettable line […]

Thoughtful Connections from the Family Program – The Forest & the Trees

  Suppose you have 100 acres full of sick trees who want to get well.  If each tree leaves the forest to find wellness and then returns to the forest, they get sick again from the infection of the rest of the trees.  The Elders taught us that to treat sick trees you must treat […]